When it comes to newborn sleep, everywhere and everyone has well meaning advice for you! Tips and advice are great, however when you get conflicting advice, it can get confusing. This often overwhelms new mums and the worst part is it can make a new mum question her instincts. So much pressure!
I hope you find my top tips for newborn sleep valuable. I have written them from my perspective as a mother. Read them and decide what tips resonate with you and any that don’t, disregard them! You are the parent – your opinion is the most important.
1. Trust yourself. Mums are so in-tune and connected with their little one that it is important to listen to what your gut instinct is telling you and make that important rather than making everybody else’s thoughts important. Getting some advice from family and friends is great however do not let it undermine what you feel is right for you.
2. Newborn sleep is neurologically immature. This means that some newborns just won’t sleep well on their own and require a lot of assistance. This can be completely normal and the best way to deal with this is to roll with it. If your little one needs to be held in order to sleep, then baby wear. This gives you the freedom to move about as you wish whilst still assisting your little one with sleep. If you just need sleep to happen easily, use the pram or car if it is a sure way to settle your newborn to sleep. There is no right or wrong just what works for you and what doesn’t.
3. Avoid your newborn becoming overtired by following age appropriate awake times. Keeping to awake windows as closely as possible avoids your little one becoming overtired. It is important to avoid your newborn becoming overtired as this makes their ability to settle to sleep and achieve a good length of sleep so much harder.
4. You can’t create bad habits. If you enjoy lying with your newborn and having a nap with them, then do it! If you enjoy feeding to sleep, then do it! Take the pressure off trying to do everything ‘right’ and just do everything the way you want to and enjoy your gorgeous baby. The newborn phase, whilst can feel overwhelming and exhausting, does not last long. Enjoy it as much as you can. If something is not working, change it and/or seek external support.
5. The house can wait! If you are tired, enjoying a cuddle, need a break etc. all of the housework can wait. It isn’t going anywhere so look after you first and don’t put so much pressure on yourself to have everything done. Trust me, I have 3 children and the housework is still there waiting – always waiting – it doesn’t go away! I don’t look back on the days when my children were little babies and feel glad that I kept on top of the housework. I look back at those days and feel glad that I have so many memories of enjoying time with my babies. So take a break from the housework and enjoy your baby!
Happy parent’s equal happy children so make that a priority and enjoy the journey of parenthood!
I am Nicole Baker from Silent Night Baby in Melbourne, and I am passionate about babies and toddlers developing fantastic sleep patterns that will promote and nurture healthy growth and take them through their childhood and beyond.
I understand the effects sleep deprivation can have on both the child’s and parents emotional well-being and how this impacts everyday life. I also have an understanding of nutrition and the effects foods can have on sleep along with the science behind sleep. By working with the natural biological rhythms we can ensure a child’s emotional needs are being met while they are learning how to develop independent sleep skills.
I offer individual and supportive sleep solutions for children up to 5 years old to suit any parenting style including gentle sleep training methods and would love to help you and your child achieve sleep harmony.
If you would like some support on your parenting journey, feel free to get in touch with me for a chat on 0417 532 402. I have also set up a sleep support group through my Facebook page that I would love for you to come and join https://www.facebook.com/groups/2018138948315777/